The Burden of Judgment

The news was incredibly interesting.  There was a porn star, there was a President and then there was a tremendous amount of drama.  Like a deer in the headlight, I found myself glued to the television, watching this drama unfold.  The small part of me was practically wringing my hands back and forth in delight, so overjoyed by the viciousness of the “I told you so,” I wanted to unleash on all of my friends who voted for this particular President.  Then I remembered. I remembered that I am a co-creator of my experience. I remembered that there was no world “out there” there was only my point of focus and present time. I remembered that my judgement about another person was always an expression of the judgement I hold about myself that I do not want to own.  But, most importantly, I remembered that I wanted to be at peace.

It is easy to get caught up in the drama in the world.  The one thing that I know is you cannot pretend the world is not happening.  A Course in Miracles says that you must look upon the world of illusions in order to dispel them.  So, you must look. But, if what you are looking at is not love and you agree with it, then you are agreeing with an illusion.  Why does this matter? The Course says “ideas leave not their source.” What this means is, if you see something outside of yourself, something that makes you angry, something that makes you believe in judgement and shame, it is really your own judgement and shame that you are holding.  My gleeful “aha” about the drama unfolding was really an opportunity. It was an opportunity for me to forgive myself. Because I do not want to look at my own judgment and shame, I threw it out onto a porn star and a President. How do I forgive myself? I do it by forgiving them.

Ugh.  That is always my next thought. “I don’t wanna.”  Of course I do not want to forgive them. I can find plenty of people to agree with me.  They might say, “But, you did sleep with her and then pay her hush money to be quiet.” Well, if you are perfect then go ahead and throw that stone.  But, chances are, there is something you feel guilty or uncomfortable about. It is just so much easier to focus on someone else than to consider your own conscience.  

The great news about forgiving them is I actually start to feel better.  It is not because I am so holy, or so spiritual that I feel better. It is because my own guilt is heavy in my energy system.  All we hold onto weighs us down. The same part of us that yearns to be “better than” hides from the feeling of “less than.” Our negative emotions sit like an anchor in our energy stream, making it take much more effort to go much less distance.  When we offer another a blessing, we are blessed in turn. When I give them a break, I become more happy and at peace.

There is much drama unfolding in the world now.  I am not suggesting that you pretend it is not occurring.  But, instead, use the drama to remember that we are all one.  Whatever you hold against another is something that you allow to hold you back.  This does not mean that you need to like everyone else, have them all for dinner and become best friends.  What it means is that you make the decision to choose to focus on love and forgiveness over fear and guilt.  

Healing Our Society

We failed Nikolas Cruz just as much as we failed the seventeen individuals who were murdered in the Parkland school shooting.  While this may sound appalling, it is true.  A community is only as strong as its weakest link, and we have become a society of enemies. Our “us against them” mentality is killing us. Both the shooter and those we lost are victims of this divisiveness.

As an energy healer, I always start my work at the root. The root chakra represents framework and foundation.  Think of a tree: If the roots of the tree are not well hydrated or firmly planted, the tree will not be healthy.  Similarly, if the roots of a society are not firmly planted in a community in which every person, even the sickest among us, matters, then that society is doomed for failure.

It is time to retire our labels.  We are not Democrats or Republicans, liberals or conservatives, pro-this or anti-that. The labels we use divide us.  It is time to embrace the idea that we are all part of one community; we are all connected.  A Course in Miracles is very clear about this.  Again and again, the book says that “this is a course for all or none.”  This means that if you want peace in this lifetime, you must extend it to everyone, not just those who are “similar” to you.  All of our judgments keep us separated from each other, but they are just a projection of our own misguided fears.

The only way to heal our society is to lay down our proverbial arms and make the decision to love each other.  Of course, this sounds silly and impractical.  I am not saying to get rid of your guns, but you may want to change the reason for which you have them. The Law of Attraction states, “like attracts like.”  When you believe that a gun is going to keep you safe, you actually attract the need to use it.  You tell the universe, “I am not safe unless I have a gun,” and the universe makes it so.

The issues currently plaguing this society can not be solved if we just focus on guns. No action we take can change anything until we decide to change the way in which we view each other.  When we stop viewing those who are different as “the other,” and make a decision to see them as we see ourselves, change can happen.  When we decide to choose love over fear, miracles will naturally occur.

The truth is that if we are all connected, a small change in one person’s perception can change everyone’s perception.  If you spend five minutes meditating today, you will gain the ability to have an impact on everyone around you.  With every door you open for another, every car you let pass you, and every time you say, “I hear you,” instead of, “I think,” you become a wave in the metaphorical ocean that can carve out new land and reshape societal norms.  Everyone who decides to connect rather than fear will build the foundation that will heal our communities.  All it takes is one small decision, and you can make it today, right here and right now. 

What is a Light Docent

My name is Kim Mazzella, and I am a Light Docent.   My goal is to help everyone that I work with find their power and live love-focused lives instead of fear-based ones.  I teach people how to shift their perspective to one of joy.   

Most of us were never taught how to be happy.  In fact, many of our mentors in youth were pretty miserable.  We are often taught a superficial definition of happiness--that if we “get”  things, we will be happy.  We learn to think that if we achieve a certain weight, job, or amount of money, life will be awesome.  I am not suggesting that we eschew material things, but, although the world teaches us that these things will bring joy, they cannot.  These things might bring us temporary happiness, but real joy is something that lasts, and it is never achieved by getting anything.

A central teaching of the Light Docent curriculum is that nothing can bring you joy.  If your joy comes from somewhere outside of you, you will be in a constant chase for happiness trying to find it. True joy starts from the inside, and in order to find it, you must give it away.  If you want anything and want it to last, you must give it away.  While this may sound paradoxical, I will go even further to say that every single thing you have ever received has been because, energetically speaking, you attracted it through giving it away.  

Most of my clients have a difficult time with this concept at first.  It makes sense in the cases of peace and love, but not with time or money.  However, this concept is truthful, as it is based in Universal Law.

Universal Law applies to everyone, and when you understand the Laws of Energy and work with them, you can experience their legitimacy and power.  The more you understand the rules of energy, the more you can let go of fear and focus on love.  You will no longer worry about what other people do, have, and say, because you will understand that you have access to power, the same power that made the planet.  You will be a co-creator in your life, not a slave to it.  

As a Light Docent, I will teach you how to work with Universal Laws to live a life of real peace and joy.  


Understanding Manifestation

Wouldn’t it be great if we could order the weather in the morning?  We could decide what kind of weather we want, press a button and, viola, we get blue skies all day long!  Sadly, we cannot pick the weather.  We cannot pick much of anything that happens in the world.  We cannot control the tsunamis of life any more than we can control actual tsunamis.  Even as parents, we may think we have some control over our children, but that eventually changes as well.  The only thing we really can control is what we think about, what we feel, and what we do.  That’s it.  The more control we have over those three things, the more control we do have over our experience in life.  The simple truth is this: if you gain mastery over what you think, feel, and do, you will gain mastery over your perception of every experience. The tsunamis will still come, but your experience with them will be vastly different.

“Manifesting” has been a hot topic for many years now, and it is based on an understanding that we are beings of energy more than we are physical beings.  Manifesting is based on the “law of attraction,” the idea that like things are drawn together.  You control your energy output, or your “energy broadcast,” in order to control your experience.  How do you do that?  First you need to understand how your energy broadcast is created, and then you need to put a new way of operating into practice in order to control your output.  It sounds easy in theory, but it is not quite so easy in practice.

So what exactly is our “energy broadcast?”  It is our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, combined with our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual “bodies.”  It is not a static broadcast; it is constantly in flux, with the active and attractive part of our broadcast being how we feel right now.   How you feel right now is based on what you believe and what you think.  Our thoughts are the starting point of our energy broadcast, so if we change the what we think about, we change how we feel.  Feelings are like magnets: the stronger the feeling, the more powerful the attraction.  The only way to change how you feel is to change what you think about.

Manifesting is a challenging process because it puts us up against the entire world, full of fear.  In order to truly manifest, you need to move from the point of view that the world is real to the belief that the only real things in your experience are your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Many of my clients call this idea insane when I first present it.  They say, “But there is a world out there, and that world isn’t always a kind or safe place.  There are evil things and evil people out there. You’re telling me that my thoughts will change the world?  That’s ridiculous.”  I know that changing your thinking will not change the world, but changing your thinking will change your world.  It will change your perception.  Two people may have the same experience, but one can come away from it empowered while the other comes away from it fearful.  Which one do you want to be? 

Changing your thinking is not as simple as saying, “I am only going to have happy thoughts,” for various reasons.  First, you cannot control every thought you have.  Second, only thoughts with feelings behind them have any attractive power, so you will not believe a happy thought if it feels fake.  Finally, you cannot think about every single thought you have.  You would not have time to leave the house; you would be stuck in your head all day.  You only need to change your thinking when you are not feeling content.  If you feel anything less than content, you attract unwanted negative thoughts.  It is not easy to pay attention to every thought, but it is easy to notice when you are not feeling content. 

As a life coach and an energy worker, most of my time is spent looking at others’ thoughts and beliefs and finding them more empowering thoughts to focus on.  There are many different processes that can help you find a better feeling.  The easiest one is to acknowledge your discontent and that it means that you must be thinking a negative thought.  Instead of focusing on that thought, focus on what you really want instead.  Then, consider what you want and list the reasons why you deserve it or why you are going to get it.  Thinking about why you are going to get what you want forces you to play an active role in your thoughts.  Often, I spend time with clients empowering them to find good reasons “why.”  Sometimes our experiences in the world will train us to believe that we do not deserve what we want.  My job is to help you find the reasons why you do.  Those reasons are there, but sometimes your own thinking can stand in the way of what you want.

Once your thoughts are focused on what you want and why you are going to get it, you get excited about it and are in “energetic alignment” to manifest it.  While this process is not easy, taking the time to do it can make a huge difference in your life experience.  While you might not be able to pick the weather, when you learn how to manifest, it will not matter.  You will feel happy about dancing in the rain.